Do you want to find and encourage your voice? How do you begin to speak a truth when you have been shut down before? What does it take to release yourself of the burden of silence?

In this podcast episode, Veronica Cisneros speaks with LaToya Smith about regaining and strengthening your voice.

Meet LaToya Smith

LaToya Smith

LaToya is the owner of LCS Counseling and Consulting Agency in Fortworth Texas. She firmly believes that people don’t have to remain stuck in their pain or the place they became wounded. She encourages her clients to be active in their treatment and work towards their desired outcome.

She has also launched Strong Witness which is a platform designed to connect, transform, and heal communities through the power of storytelling.

Visit LaToya’s website and get in touch via email: info@lcsac.com

Connect with her on FacebookInstagramStrong Witness Instagram, and Twitter.

In This Podcast

Summary

  • How do we lose our voice?
  • Next steps towards healing
  • Importance of giving details
  • How to be vulnerable and still share your story
  • What happens when someone doesn’t believe you?
  • How are you able to heal when you do not know the ‘why’?

How do we lose our voice?

  • Somebody or people can take out voice away from us, especially when they try to tell our stories for us.
  • We can also lose it when we surrender it to somebody else or something else that creates a shift in power where we feel like we do not have the power to share our own story.

… or really not opening up to share our story, and when you don’t use it, you lose it, kind of like a muscle. – LaToya

We can experience inner turmoil and emotional pain when we shut down and our voice is lost or silent. There is a power we acquire to tell it and we gain the ability to share it how we want to.

Next steps towards healing

Strong Witness does not substitute full therapy, however, Strong Witness is a platform that empowers people to speak up and share and connect with others around them. You can help other people by sharing your story and there is no story too small that it cannot be shared because when you share a story there will always be a connection made.

As the listeners:

  •  Listen to understand. Just listen and do not worry about having to have the ‘right’ answer because sometimes simply being present is more powerful.
  • Remember that your response is still important, even if you just say: “I’m here listening” and “what do you need me to be for you right now?”
  • If you want to ask questions, ask them if that is alright first before jumping straight in.

As the speakers:

  • Share with the right people, however, this may be easier said than done. Share with people who care about you instead of those who are only interested in your business superficially.
  • Once you begin to heal, you will be able to more easily recognize it when people are being malicious towards you.
  • It is up to you to decide how much you want to share – no one can force you to say more than you want to.

Importance of giving details

Details are important to you, not necessarily to others, because by fully recognizing what you went through and bringing it all to light, it cannot harm you otherwise.

However, details can be sensitive if you have not dealt with them yet. But, getting comfortable with the uncomfortable creates power and releases you from the prisons of the past.

How to be vulnerable and still share your story

  1. Reframing your mindset around it
  2. Share it where you feel comfortable sharing it. It is important to know that if you suffered from a horrible, dirty act that you are not horrible, the act was.
  3. Break free and find safety in another person, or people within your support system and allow yourself to be vulnerable with the people that you trust.
  4. Using your voice without fear. Start small and build it over time by using it constantly, like a muscle that you strengthen.
  5. What happens when someone doesn’t believe you?

It takes immense strength to open up to someone and therefore it can be a terrible blow when they throw it back at you.

  • People not believing you says more about themselves than it does about your sincerity and your truth.
  • Find someone as soon as possible to speak to after this happens, to try to stop you from shutting down your own voice because someone did not believe you at that time.
  • Ride that wave of courage and tell more than one person, if you can, to hear you. If the first person does not connect, keep searching for the second and third one.

How are you able to heal when you do not know the ‘why’?

A ‘why’ may not ever make you feel better, you have to realize for yourself that your voice, your mental health, and emotional wellbeing are more important to your life than finding out the ‘why’. Also, ask yourself, ‘is any why good enough’? when something horrible has happened to you, searching for the ‘why’ could do more damage than good.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic PodcastI’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.

So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.

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