Do you struggle juggling home tasks with your partner? How can you navigate the tense conversation between who needs to pick up the slack? Would you want the same kind of marriage you have for your kids?

In this repurposed podcast episode, I speak with Billy and Brandy Eldridge about why one person is stuck managing the family and what can be done to change this.

Meet Billy and Brandy

Brandy Eldridge is a nonprofit executive director where she and her team provide services for abused and neglected children.

She was a school administrator holding a superintendent and principal license. Brandy now serves various committees in her community and state.

Brandy holds a Masters degree in Educational Leadership from Park University where she is currently a doctoral student at the University of Southern California. Brandy is also a consultant and speaker.

Billy Eldrige is a private practice owner and therapist who focuses on working with adolescents and men who would rather be anywhere than counseling.

Billy believes you can find light in the darkest of situations if you are willing to take the time and look. He received his Masters Degree in Clinical Mental Health from Texas A&M University Texarkana where he is an adjunct faculty member for the counseling graduate program.

Visit their website and connect on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn. Listen to their podcast here.

In This Podcast

Summary

  • It’s not his fault that you refuse to put yourself first
  • If you want him to do it, let him
  • Details on the course

It’s not his fault that you refuse to put yourself first

It is a tough pill to swallow because it is so much easier to be angry at someone for not doing enough when in fact you do not give them the chance to do more, and you take everything on yourself.

You haven’t allowed him, you haven’t given him the opportunity to learn, you haven’t given him the opportunity to screw up and learn. You haven’t taught him, so you just did it. (Veronica Cisneros)

This does not mean that women have to teach their men everything. Men and husbands still have to take the initiative and notice where and when they can help and offer to help even when they are not sure about how to do something.

Men and husbands are adults too and need to remember that they can try things even if they are new, they can help their partners and they can take the initiative without having to wait for their partners to call on them to help.

If you want him to do it, let him

As moms, we’re attempting to avoid any form of judgement with regards to parenting or with regards to how we are as a wife because we hold those titles very dearly and that represents who we are as a person. It encompasses our entire self-worth which we need to step out of. (Veronica Cisneros)

You never needed to supervise, you needed in fact to let go of the urge to control everything because you want everything to be perfect.

When you hand over tasks to your partner who is not used to handling them, there will be close calls and lots of mistakes, but they will pass and your partner will learn.

When you think about the state of your marriage, whether good or bad, think about your children and imagine them being in similar marriages like the one you are in now: would you be glad for them or worried for them?

Details on the course

Reignite Your Marriage By Cutting Through Communication Barriers: Finally feel Supported, Appreciated and Understood

I’ve been getting a lot of questions from married women about how to effectively communicate with their husbands.  This course would provide expert advice and easy-to-use strategies to help women connect with their husbands feeling understood, supported, and more importantly feel connected. A 5-week online course with an outlined workbook and exercises for you and your husband to do together. We will meet weekly and there will be live group coaching calls and so much more. 

I want to personally invite you to be one of my 15  founding members for the online course, here’s what you’ll get:

  • Reduced price now as a Founding Member, only pay $197 (As of 4/6 Course Price will be $297)
  • 5 Week Online Course
  • Workbook
  • Expert Advice & Easy to use strategies
  • Weekly Meetings and Coaching Calls 
  • Lifetime Updates
  • Bonuses and so much more
  • Course Start Date 5/10/2021

Click here to sign up as a founding member of my course

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic PodcastI’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.

So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.

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