Are you struggling with being comfortable in your own skin? Do your insecurities hold you back? Do you not think you’re enough?

In this reverse podcast episode, Veronica Cisneros is interviewed by Melissa Vogel, they speak about extremes, insecurities, and acceptance.

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Meet Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel is a mother of 3, certified personal trainer and group fitness instructor, nutritional coach, actress, energetic keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and podcaster. With over 20 years of experience in the fitness industry, Melissa has not only been able to help others achieve their fitness goals, but she also leads by example. As one of the most sought after personal trainers and fitness instructors in the Inland Empire, Melissa has independently grown her in-person and online training business successfully and has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire. She has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine.

As a mother of three, and a fitness professional, Melissa understands the struggle of a busy lifestyle, and how difficult if can be to fit fitness in. It is from this real-life experience that Melissa was able to develop her workout routines and fitness guides. She single-handedly created exercise programs that other women could use to gain the same health success that she has achieved; and is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!

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In This Podcast


  • Closeted insecurities
  • Getting over the negative self-talk
  • Shame
  • Distorted thoughts
  • Giving yourself permission without feeling the guilt
  • Coaching

Closeted insecurities

And so, it was all these insecurities coming up for me and ultimately, you know, I realized, well wait a minute, I don’t feel worthy, and I feel completely insecure.

Veronica shares a story of how her self-sabotaging with food led her to a place of insecurity, the low point that made her decide to make a change.

Getting over the negative self-talk

Who is the person you’re trying to get acceptance from? Who was that person when you were a kid and who is that person now? When you’re met with constantly disappointing, it turns into an internal dialogue of “I’m not enough”. We then don’t do any of the things we want to do because we don’t think we’re capable. We need to dive deep and understand why this is happening, why do we not think we’re enough?


And I realized, holy moly, every time I self-sabotage, I’m also exposed to this level of shame. And that feeling hurt so much, that feeling hurt so, so much, and I don’t know what to do with it because nobody ever taught me.

Distorted thoughts

In the clinical world, negative self-talk is referred to as “distorted thoughts”. We believe that these distorted thoughts are facts, we believe that they’re 100% true and no one can convince us otherwise. We overgeneralize, catastrophize, and minimize.

Giving yourself permission without feeling the guilt

You get to make an active choice to do something different, every single time.

What is living this way right now costing you? Are you really connected with the people in your life? Stepping out of our comfort zone gives us a sense of empowerment. We become unapologetic, we give ourselves permission, we don’t need permission from anyone else. We get to choose, we get to let go, release, and move forward.


Veronica offers multiple coaching options. On Facebook, you can find a free group called Empowered and Unapologetic – a community of women just treading lightly and seeing what it’s all about. Veronica also has a VIP membership group that is completely private. Veronica creates a personalized plan for you. Where you want to go, what your goals are, talk about your insecurities, and the group goes through it together. You attend live coaching calls and you’re hand-selected an accountability partner. Coaching is available to anyone, anywhere, we can work together no matter where we live.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life. So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist. Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook communityjoin the VIP community, or attend our annual retreat,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

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