How do we get back to ourselves when the to-do list is through the roof? Where and how do we start the decluttering process? How will it help us to reconnect with our intentions and ourselves?

In this podcast episode, Veronica Cisneros speaks with Allie Casazza about how to reduce stress and clutter and shares some steps you can start taking today!

Meet Allie Casazza

Allie Casazza is the host of The Purpose Show – a top-rated podcast – and the creator of online courses that have earned her international attention for her fresh, practical lifestyle strategies for moms.

Known as ‘The Life Minimalist’, she encourages and inspires women to pursue abundant life by creating space for what matters most. Allie and her husband, Brian, live with their four young children in Southern California wine country.

Visit Allie’s website, connect on Instagram, and listen to her podcast.

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In This Podcast

Summary

  • Admit that the situation is happening
  • Commit to a hard reset then keep the ball moving
  • Come back to your emotions
  • Show up for yourself
  • Start with one room

Admit that the situation is happening

I had this, like, situational depression and I knew that I wasn’t sick just because I was sick. I knew there was a cause, a root, and I didn’t want to mask it. I wanted to pull it out.

Many people put off recognizing the impact of the situation at hand in fear of having to let go of it, because letting it go can mean uncertainty and being unsure in your life is frightening to anyone. However, this fear of uncertainly blocks all the possibilities that lie before you. With letting objects and clutter go makes physical and emotional space for you to create a new lifestyle, and that uncertainty transforms into possibility.

I realized that I have so much in my life that is so unnecessary, I don’t even need it or want it. It’s in my way, it’s blocking my purpose.

Blindly rushing through life in fear of addressing an underlying issue may cause you exponential harm than rather taking a minute to pause, breathe, and listen to what may be underneath. Taking the time to see yourself is the very first step in decluttering your space and yourself, because, inevitably, they are deeply connected.

Commit to a hard reset then keep the ball moving

That pressure comes from the outside from society, but it also mostly comes from our ourselves. So when you stop – there is so much power in pause – you can look at yourself and admit where you are, and get honest with yourself.

Reset. Share and process these feelings and desires with someone that supports you. It is not one momentous change and then you carry on as normal. This process is a gradual yet constant shift where you will make steady changes away from the lifestyle you wish to leave behind. The reset is the breaking of the knee-jerk habit of cluttering and pushing forward, the process and the shift come from keeping a daily practice.

Come back to your emotions

What takes up your space, takes up your time.

This is where it becomes important to notice your feelings. When you start feeling agitated or find yourself moving towards a ditch again, reset. Go for a walk and focus on your breathing to clear your mind. Remember your intentions and try again. It may not be easy at first, but this is work that rewards you throughout your lifetime. Decluttering is emotional work because most of our clutter has sentimental value. Lean into your insecurities about throwing old things away and challenge those thoughts. Perhaps they link you to old memories or childhood traumas that you feel guilty releasing. If so, then they do need to be released. Work on giving yourself permission to let go. Most of the time releasing those emotions and decluttering that space is far more freeing than we may realize.

Show up for yourself

It’s not about the clutter in the corner, it’s about your life.

Make it a fun date with yourself to reframe how you view the idea of decluttering. We can easily become distracted by kids, a phone call, something happening downstairs. Treat decluttering like a fun-yet-professional meeting with yourself by:

  • Turning your phone on silent
  • Putting on some music
  • Turning your email notifications off
  • Setting boundaries around this time and telling your family to give you a personal moment to dive right in and enjoy getting it done.

Make a date with yourself to clear out your home and set out your life, because it is not only about decluttering the space, it will ultimately lead to you decluttering your life.

Start with one room

How and where to begin can be daunting. The best tip on where to begin is the bathroom. In there are easy yes’s and no’s, such as throwing out old shampoo bottles, the broken hairdryer, expired makeup, and unnecessary old bath-time toys. Starting small and clearing out one room will show you that you can do this, and will help to build momentum so that you can move onto another room tomorrow. Work with the idea that these old things in the clutter have served their purpose. If you have not used it in the past six months, it has served its purpose.

This philosophy will help to give you permission to let things go and will let you move through conflicting emotions. It is common for people to feel some guilt when throwing out things. Lean into that feeling and sit with it for a while to understand where these emotions may be coming from. This emotional attachment and guilty feelings add more stress. Give yourself judgment-free permission to let it go.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life. So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist. Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook communityjoin the VIP community, or attend our annual retreat,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

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