Do you want to be successful? What does success look like to you? How badly do you want success?
In This Podcast
In this podcast episode, Veronica shares her story into understanding success and how she had to lean into her fear.
My journey to understanding success
Growing up I always wanted more, I just never knew what exactly more was. I knew something was missing and I felt a hole but I just didn’t know how I could get it. I grew up in a household where my dad was struggling with addiction and my mother did everything in her power to mask it. That meant sending us to pageants and more.
I remember being so excited to attend UCSD for the summers. I was in a program that allowed underprivileged youth to attend college. I knew this was one of my ways out, but how?
I didn’t want anyone else to take it away from me and I wanted it so badly.
I received this exact same feeling when I was accepted into grad school. Then again, when I received my first internship at Loma Linda BMC. Graduating was something that blew my mind!
Then I moved on to working in the field and establishing my own practice. There were so many people coming in and out of my life and I started to pay attention to how they impacted me.
Although I was moving forward, there was one thing that continued to follow me! FEAR.
I had a distorted thought that I needed someone else to guide me and help me move forward because I can’t do this myself. I didn’t think I was worth it. Then I started leaning into my fear and guess what? I started to move forward because I started to believe.
What was my mindset when I did succeed? It was that I didn’t want anyone else to take it away from me and I wanted it so badly.
How to lean into fear to gear up for success
Step 1: Learn from others
Take only the lessons you know will suit you and flush everything else.
Step 2: Get super clear on what you want and what makes you happy
Ask yourself the questions that lean into what will allow you to live your best life.
Step 3: What’s standing in your way?
I had to let go of the fear and let go of what I was taught as a kid. That meant leaning into fear and embracing it.
Step 4: Why are the emotions overwhelming?
Because you’re not used to feeling them, you usually brush them under the rug and pretend they are not there. Write down all of these emotions you feel when you go through an emotion list.
Step 5: How bad do you want it?
Lean into it. Is it okay if the person next to you takes it from you? You better fight for it because no one is going to give it to you.
What is your intent for today? Write it down. Until next time, keep pushing forward.
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Meet Veronica Cisneros
I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.
So I started Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.
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