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Do you feel like you’re lacking motivation? Why is it important to put yourself first? What are some steps you can take to implement change?

In this podcast episode, Veronica shares a live coaching call she did on how to be motivated and take action.

In This Podcast


  • Lacking motivation
  • The lie that is the social norm
  • The change you have to make

Lacking motivation

I couldn’t explain what I am other than a mom and a wife

There was this lingering feeling, it wasn’t depression, but something was missing. Realizing that her teenager would be out of the house in a few years, Bridget understood that she should have a separate identity outside of being a mom and a wife. Bridget felt that she needed to start looking for that identity or start creating it.

After attending a transformative seminar she felt that she was starting on a clean slate and tried to build herself to the way she wanted to be. Despite taking this step she still has a lack of motivation on a day-to-day basis.

The lie that is the social norm

It’s just a social norm that mom’s don’t put themselves first. When you’re met with this guilt that you don’t know what to do with, you tend to go back to the norm, to the things that fulfill you and you feel appreciated for. Tending to everyone else’s needs is the social norm, and this is a lie we have been fed, over and over again.

When we’re met with breaking a pattern, it’s difficult because we don’t want to disappoint, experience judgment or hurt others. As women, we are nurturers and we want to do everything for everyone. And the moment you put yourself first over your kid, you start questioning what type of mother you are. But if you don’t put yourself first, where will you be. Imagine doing this over and over, you’ll quickly fall into depression because you don’t have an identity.

The change you have to make

You have to start working towards your goals! In order to create change, you have to want it so badly that you’re able to lean into fear, lean into your insecurities, and then be able to sit in those uncomfortable emotions.

  • Commit to a date
  • Eliminate any distractions
  • Block out your own time and stick to working during this time
  • Decide on the 3 steps you need to take, put it in your calendar

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast

I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.

So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.

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