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Are you considering hiring a personal trainer? What will your trainer not tell you? How can you know if a trainer is right for you?

In this podcast episode, Veronica speaks to Melissa Vogel about getting fit after becoming a mom, and what your personal trainer isn’t telling you.

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Meet Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel

Melissa Vogel is a mother of 3, certified personal trainer and group fitness instructor, nutritional coach, actress, energetic keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and podcaster. With over 20 years of experience in the fitness industry, Melissa has not only been able to help others achieve their fitness goals, but she also leads by example. As one of the most sought after personal trainers and fitness instructors in the Inland Empire, Melissa has independently grown her in-person and online training business successfully and has been voted as the Best Personal Trainer for 2020 by Inland Empire. She has contributed to numerous publications and has been featured in the Trail Blazer Magazine, and published in the April 2020 edition of Health Magazine

As a mother of three, and a fitness professional, Melissa understands the struggle of a busy lifestyle, and how difficult if can be to fit fitness in. It is from this real-life experience that Melissa was able to develop her workout routines and fitness guides. She single-handedly created exercise programs that other women could use to gain the same health success that she has achieved; and is quickly becoming recognized for her expertise and influence in her field!

Visit her website and connect on Instagram and Facebook. Listen to Melissa’s podcast here!

Sign up for Melissa’s free course and ’30 Days to a Bomb Mom Body’ Fitness Plan.

In This Podcast


  • Melissa’s story and transformation
  • Mindset speed bumps
  • This is a journey, not a sprint
  • Calories in versus calories burned
  • What are trainers not telling us?
  • How to know if the trainer is right for you
  • Advice for the mom who feels stressed and disconnected

Melissa’s story and transformation

I embrace this, I give you grace, I love you because, my God, you just created humans!

Melissa was brought up in a fitness-focused household so she feels like she has a little advantage on other people. Her siblings, however, didn’t turn out the same way she did, even though they had the same upbringing. Growing up fit doesn’t always equal a fit adult, you still have to make that choice. When Melissa became a mom, her eyes were opened to a whole different world. When you’re pregnant, you give your body up to another human being. She wasn’t one of those women who bounced back after each of her pregnancies. Melissa realized that she was no longer the same person, she was a different human now, with a different role and couldn’t expect her body to operate and function the way it did before she had kids. She had to learn how to have a loving relationship with her body before getting fit again.

Mindset speed bumps

  • Finding the time
  • Diet changes
  • Mom guilt
  • Wanting instant results

This is a journey, not a sprint

Sometimes we need to shut our brains off to the outside world with everything being so instant and just know that you can’t compare your fitness journey to that.

Society has screwed us. We’re surrounded by instant gratification. Everything has to happen right now, faster and faster. We expect the same things to happen with our muscles, minds, and bodies. The more you can embrace that this is a journey and not a sprint, the more it’s going to help you get results that last forever. Take it slow, take baby steps, and don’t negate the baby steps, it’s still progress!

Calories in versus calories burned

Be patient with yourself and learn to know what works for you calorie-wise. Know what’s going into your body. Yes, technically, you can eat whatever you like as long as you stay within a certain amount of calories, but you need to consider the quality of the food as well. Greater quality food will give you more benefits, you won’t crash, you’ll have the fuel to last longer and be more productive. Right now, a lot of people are stuck at home and not able to be as active as they would like. Our activity levels are definitely less when we’re stuck inside our homes so start paying attention to your caloric intake. Eat foods with higher nutritional values, you can eat a lot more of them and still feel full, without blowing your daily calorie budget.

What are trainers not telling us?

It’s hard, this is hard. If it was easy, everyone would be walking around in a bikini with a 6 pack.

  • You’re going to fail – this isn’t going to be easy.
  • You are going to need accountability and support – this is really hard to do on your own.
  • You don’t have to hire him all the time, you don’t need to buy the 25-session package.
  • You’re going to become dependent on them.
  • You must like their body – You really have to look up to their body. Their body needs to be your body goals.

How to know if the trainer is right for you

Test them out – Usually, when joining a gym, you get 3 free sessions with a trainer. Use them, take advantage of it.

  • Personal training is very personal – Make sure that your personalities click, you don’t want to end up with a trainer that you resent, this brings about resentful feelings being associated with fitness.
  • Interview your trainer in person – you have to make sure they have the right vibe.
  • Make sure that your program is something that you can access anywhere and is easy to follow.

Advice for the mom who feels stressed and disconnected

Find accountability with someone who is going to help you set your goals, achieve them, and keep pushing you forward. Also, add yoga once a week to your life, it will do wonders for you.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast

I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.

So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.

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